Since it was Davin's birthday this week I decided I would talk about him. He is definitely my little helper. He also has his moments where he knows exactly how to push my buttons. I love him so much.
I didn't know I was pregnant until I made a trip to the ER in Arizona. I had terrible pain on my side, had heartburn so bad I couldn't sleep, and I was waking up drenched in sweat. My mom was concerned because she had had a tubal pregnancy and it sounded to her much like that. I felt miserable. So we went, the test showed positive, but they couldn't see anything on the ultrasound. After 12 terrible hours waiting in the hospital waiting room, we were told it was a miscarriage and I just needed to go home and wait to bleed. I was devastated. I cried all the way home. I kept saying "Am I not ready to be a mother, Heavenly Father? Do I not deserve this? What did I do wrong?" We got home from the hospital about 1 am and had to work at 4:30 the next morning. I was exhausted. After another week, with no sign I had miscarried, I took another test and sure enough it was still positive.
I found a doula and at 16 weeks they couldn't get a heartbeat. I began to panic. What if I wasn't pregnant? I could feel him moving, but what if it wasn't a baby? What if it was a cancer? What was happening to me? I had nightmares for several weeks leading up to the ultrasound that when they looked it wasn't a baby but some large cancer. I was so anxious to get the ultrasound over with. I wanted to know if I was going to have a baby or die. In April we found out we were having a boy!!! My fears vanished. I was so excited. My dream was coming true, I was becoming a MOM!
At the end of May I moved from Arizona to Idaho. I did a 15 hour trip in one day, at just over 6 months pregnant. My doula suggested I take it very slow and move around a lot, because blood clots could form and that would not be good. I felt pressure to just get home. During the trip my left leg swelled up and hurt a lot. I kept saying I felt like I needed to walk more, my leg was beginning to worry me. But we didn't we kept going. When I got to my parents' home I was tired and my leg stayed swollen for several days.
My mom and my siblings walked a lot with me those last few months of my pregnancy. At the end of August, both my legs were so swollen. You could press on my leg and it would stay indented for hours. I laughed, but my wise mother was concerned. She made me put my feet up as much as possible. On my next doctor appointment I had gained 10lbs in a week and with how swollen my legs were they decided to test me for preeclampsia. Two days of peeing in a jar, and the test came back positive. They called me at 10 am on Friday the 4th, and had me go to the hospital to start me on Pitocin, and other drugs to keep me from having seizures. The baby was coming today!!!!
I was so excited to hold this little man. I was doing great! When I was dilated to a 7 1/2 I was in no pain and they asked if I wanted an epidural. I said "but I am not in pain" they said "if you don't get one now you wont get one and you will want one." I said "ok, I guess I will do it." OH MY GOODNESS!!!! Worst mistake of my life! It was the only time I cried! He kept saying "Gosh dang it!" I was having shooting pain down my left leg. It was terrible. Then my blood pressure crashed and it stopped my progress. Everything that could go wrong with an epidural DID! I hated it. They had to take me off the drip because it was making my blood pressure crash so I could not have it to push!
At about 1am on the following morning I began to push! It wasn't working. They were trying the vacuum and other tools. My mom was "pushing with me" so she almost passed out twice. (hahaha love you mom) It just wasn't working and the doctor kept saying "If this doesn't work we are doing a C-section." After several pushes, and several more comments about a C-section, I would look down and see the doctor with his head bowed. I knew he was praying. He would look up and say ok lets keep trying. After several more prayers and pushes Davin came into the world. He was taken quickly. Nothing went according to the "birth plan" Davin was limp and not doing well. The Doctor cut his cord and nurses took him to the heating table. The doctor kept looking at me and at the baby. I remember asking if the baby was ok. And he said "I don't know." I felt calm, actually probably more tired than calm. When I started feeling more normal I told the doctor about the bet I had with my sister. She said she would give me a million dollars if I didn't scream. So I said to him "Man, I lost a million dollars Dr." His response set me back and worried me a little bit. He shook his head and said, without delay, "I just lost 3 years of my life."
Soon enough Davin was placed in my arms and I fell in love. His chunky little cheeks, his bright red/orange hair and his little nose. What a perfect little boy! He had a hard time with everything because of the magnesium I was on had gotten to him because it was such a long process. He was lethargic. He had jaundice. We stayed 2 nights in the hospital and 2 days later went back in over night because his bilirubin was so high. 21 is where brain damage starts, he was at a 19. Doctors said it was because of the hard delivery. He would lay in that light like he was on a beach somewhere. He was so precious!

1 week later I went to my doctor complaining of massive headaches. He said my blood pressure wasn't too high but we would try blood pressure medicine. I think I took two pills. Another week passed and I complained about my leg feeling like it was in a constant Charlie horse. He said "take some magnesium." I then drove to Boise to do a 5k and have a little party for Davin. Davin cried all night. We finally took him for a drive around the block and he went to sleep. A couple hours later I woke up sat straight up in the bed. It was about 6am and I could not breath. I thought standing up would help, but it didn't. I was starting to panic. It was getting harder and harder. Then someone said lay down on your left side! I did and within a few minutes it passed. And I passed on the 5k. Later that night, at Davin's party, it hit again. First it was in my back, I asked my husband to pop my back as soon as he walked around me I fell to the ground. I couldn't breath again. We called my doctor and he said "It could be heartburn or a blood clot, either way go to the hospital." On the way to the hospital my husband suggested I put an Aspirin under my tongue. As we got to the hospital the pain started to subside. The hospital said "It must be gallbladder attack" They suggested I have it removed. Two weeks later another attack. Back in the hospital. I told the doctors it felt as if my chest was about to explode.
5 weeks after delivering Davin I had my gallbladder removed. The doctor gave me a blood thinner before the procedure. The doctor said my gallbladder looked normal, but something big could have passed causing my pain. When I woke up I felt like I had been hit by a TRUCK!!!! My husband was sick of the hospital and ready to go home. I told him I didn't think I could go home. The nurse came in and made me walk around. My stomach didn't even hurt. My left leg was killing me, it felt like it was 100 pounds all by itself. I went home. Two days later my dad came over and I told him I was in so much pain. He touched behind my leg and I started to cry. He said I needed to call my doctor, he thought I had a DVT (deep vein thrombosis) essentially, a blood clot. My doctor sent me to the ER.
They did an ultrasound on my leg, and sure enough blood clots throughout my entire leg. I told them I had a hard time climbing stairs and that it felt like I was having an asthma attack. They did a CT scan and sure enough I had 3 large clots in my lungs. 3 was the number of breathing attacks I had! The doctor told me I was his first blood clot patient because he always gives the thinner to prevent clots. I firmly believe if he hadn't given me the shot I would have died on that table. I should have died on that table. I was in so much pain even touching my foot to the ground was so excruciating, I would not wish it on my worst enemy. I spent 4 days in the hospital, on oxygen because my O2 levels were so low. Because it was during swine flu epidemic my new baby could not come visit me. I felt so alone. But the days seemed blurred.
I couldn't carry my son for months. I had to learn how to walk again. I was in and out of the hospital with breathing problems throughout December. One time at Physical Therapy my O2 level dropped to 70, they again rushed me to the ER. All I wanted was to be a mom and hold my baby, bathe him, show him off to my new friends, all the things new moms are supposed to do.
Davin came at a very hard time. I was having a hard time with my illness, my parents were separating and my siblings were having a hard time coping with all the changes. Davin, from day one was a little love bug. He cuddled everyone. At one time when my sister, my mom and I were on my mom's bed Davin waived "I love you" in sign language. He was our angel.
About 18 months later, believe it or not, I wanted another baby. My husband was resistant. He suggested we pray about adoption. I felt that adoption was our answer, but not at this time. When the time finally presented itself, about a year later, we knew it was right. Rachel and Ameilia joined our family. Davin calls them "HIS GIRLS". If I hadn't had such a hard time getting Davin here, we would not have thought about adoption. He is such a loving kid. Every time I am sad or feeling sick he is the first to put his hand on my shoulder and tell me it is going to be ok. I love this kid so much and so thankful he chose me to be his momma!
See what I mean.... HERE MOM, HERE IS MY BOTHER!!! He was crying for you!